I use a wheelchair, I have a degenerative disease, I grew up learning to deal with my physical limitations. And, as a living human being, I do have hormones and a hard-on.
Sex is a taboo in the most different conversations, but in relation to people with disabilities (PCD) sex is always a taboo. So here I am to tell you: Yes, we have sex and it's not a problem.
To begin with, it is necessary to remember that, regardless of the physical condition, the sexual act can only exist if there is consent from both (or more) parties and, having that consent, there are no limits to experiencing new and pleasurable ways of reaching orgasm. Even so, the biggest question is “How do you get laid?”. People need to imagine what it would be like, how they would go about sleeping with someone if they couldn't stand up or have the muscle strength to move during sexual intercourse.
Curiosity is also linked to the thought that, depending on the situation, people with disabilities can be seen as infantilized figures, who need extreme care and are not capable of giving pleasure to their partner. This is major brand bullshit. Who never had a relationship that didn't go as expected? That chemistry didn't flow, that the vibe was weird? It happens to anyone and it can happen to someone who has a disability.
On the other hand, there are also situations in which people with disabilities become the object of a fetish and, in this case, as I said above, what counts is consent. Those who relate to PCD usually have a different, more open mind, and understand that adaptation is law, discovering new ways and means for both to feel horny, pleasure and have a memorable orgasm.
Think that in the book Kama Sutra there are 529 sexual positions. FIVE HUNDRED AND TWENTY-NINE! I believe that people who think that sex with PCD is unsatisfactory often limit themselves to two or three positions with their non-disabled partner. So, it's time to open your mind and think that there are infinite ways to relate physically, give and feel pleasure with someone, including, or not, penetration.
Finally, sex is good for the skin, body and soul, if it's between people who want to have it, regardless of a disability. Relax, there's a way for everything.
Trance more and judge less.
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Amanda Lyra is a singer, songwriter, producer and presenter, wheelchair user and creator of the Solyra Project . Follow her on FACEBOOK and INSTAGRAM .
Paloma Santos is an illustrator, wheelchair user and feminist. "In my work as an illustrator I try to represent female diversity". Follow her on INSTAGRAM and like her on FACEBOOK .
