Our emotional is fragile. It's a bunch of feelings and emotions bubbling up inside. As children we experience the expression of this bubbling freely and little by little we learn that to live in society it is necessary to control emotions.
This control shapes our body, which is the most solid and living expression of our unconscious. With this control, we learn to contain, store and box our emotions. They are that most living expression of vital energy. A river that runs free, sometimes agitated and other times calm.
Emotional maturity is what we choose to seek in the therapeutic process. We continue to welcome, listen and reconnect with our emotions to learn to understand them, express them more naturally and as closely as possible to the truth of each moment. Containing emotions is irrational, it is an aggression to our emotional system, which is confused, spending life energy to express and contain. This internal struggle expends more energy and generates more fatigue than simply feeling the emotion and going through it.
Maturity comes here to be a set of feeling processes, an accumulation of repertoire, as well as a band that studies what is going to play in the show and rehearses as many times as necessary. Maturity brings that possibility. Several rehearsals, several training sessions, some better, others not so much. Some come out more in tune, others are not those things, because every day we are different and we express ourselves differently.
Learning to express emotions and give the importance it deserves to each situation we experience, no more, no less. All of them are essential for our evolution and development. Don't believe it when someone tells you that anger is bad or that sadness shouldn't be felt. Anger moves our life. It is a feeling that makes us act, walk, run. And sadness, with all its internalization, provides this moment of internal acceptance. Reception is often necessary to get momentum for the next step.
Know the feelings and emotions and value each one of them. This is how you live a life with emotional maturity.
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Larissa Tomass is a body psychologist, who conducts the interviews for the minidocs "What is Fight Like a Girl" and, starting in September, teaches the Feminine Powers course, in Curitiba.
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